So earlier today I was searching through my YouTube and I stumbled across a comment on one of my videos. Now usually I don’t really pay attention to comments unless they’re either constructive or positive. Of course I still read the negative/hateful posts but they don’t necessarily affect me anymore. I think we all as artists, entertainers and producers; all reach a stage where you learn to blank it out. At the end of the day I’m a huge supporter of positivity and I don’t think that negativity is necessary at all –because you can always make a good situation out of a bad situation if you put your mind to it. Well the same goes towards negative comments; I think that any criticism can be expressed positively so any hateful comments purely reflect insecurities of those writing them.
Look at things this way: say you’re watching a video from one of your favourite YouTubers and they’re wearing a chequered shirt. Now you’re not a huge fan of the shirt, and seeing as the person asked for comments –you decide you want to tell them (which is perfectly fine because we’re all entitled to our own opinion). But instead of typing “Hey, not really a fan of the shirt but great video!” you type “YOUR SHIRT IS SHIT LOL” ..you would be presenting yourself in a completely different image. And anybody who intends to be presented negatively is either; spiteful, insecure or idiotic. What? It’s true. As humans we’re incredibly loving creatures –and we’re constantly striving for acceptance and success. So why somebody would want to be presented in a dark or harsh light, I don’t know.
But there’s two sides of every story; and this is where some people differ. You could react one in three ways:
A) You ignore the comment.
B) You reply positively to the comment.
C) You reply negatively to the comment.
Both options A and B, in my eyes, would be the more effective options. I know it’s instinct to react negatively to negativity (wow that’s a tongue twister) but especially in cases like YouTube and Facebook –where individuals can hide behind a computer screen, and in some cases an individual can remain anonymous (because for some reason they’re not confident enough to be themselves; which is a whole other issue in itself): I feel that responding negatively to hate and negativity is weak. It takes courage and strength to turn a blind eye and ignore a comment or a slur.. because you’re fighting the urge to react. But by reacting you’re almost giving in to them, and in effect they’re “winning” if you please. This is one of the main reasons why I think physical violence solves nothing. Because in essence you’re screaming “I can’t think logically about how to respond to you, so I’m going to let my fists talk for me”..
I think that there’s enough hate in the world already; everyday there’s injustice, crime and hate spread on a global scale. But I’ll never forget a quote I once read by Gandhi. He once said;
“Be the change you want to see in the world”
And for me, personally, I want to see Love. I want to live in a world where I can wake up and feel happy about my life: not feel scared to walk hand in hand with my partner do
wn the high-street; not feel scared to walk around my neighborhood at night: a world where people can feel confident about expressing themselves and not threatened by the society that they live in.
I know it’s hard to react positively, and it may sound as if I’m trying to be a perfect citizen here- and believe me, I know that we all have our insecurities and flaws but I’ll still believe that Love can be universal if we choose for it to be.
I just wanted to share my thoughts with you guys because a lot of you have asked me how I deal with negativity- and I’ve been feeling a lot of it recently with all the change that’s going on. But the hardest part is staying open-minded; I think that change is necessary and the world is slowly but surely moving in the direction I hope for: Acceptance, Love and Equality. But it’s not going to happen overnight, and if you turn round and react badly to small minded people, you’re just going to slow down the process; so BE the change.
I hope you’re having a wonderful week, remember to stay positive!